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Offline PR-40

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« on: Mar 12, 2005, 21:06 »
Why on earth can't people at cash points in supermarkets be more polite?
Not all,but a hell of a lot of them are so abrupt and even rude.Ive searched for an item before and not found it, so I ask an assistant,who replies "If i snot on shelf we've not gorrit".some are helpful,but on the very rare occasion you find an extra polite one.I found a very polite one once,when I asked if I could have a carrier bag she said yes with pleasure.Thats when I smelt a rat,it's usually a few quid extra with pleasure.  :lol:  :oops:

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« Reply #1 on: Mar 12, 2005, 22:15 »
Some supermarkets are better than others. Purely from my own experience, Tesco seems friendlier than Asda. Maybe it's something to do with staff wages and staff morale?!

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« Reply #2 on: Mar 13, 2005, 11:53 »
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I was brought up to always hold the door open for the person after me...


If you hold the door open now for anyone their response will most likely be "Yeah I can open the door myself", they seem to think you're patronising them by doing them a favour.

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re: Politeness
« Reply #3 on: Mar 13, 2005, 12:24 »
I agree,some supermarkets are better than others,and one chain store in particular seem to have a reputation for it.You hit the nail on the head when you said "it's lack of parental guidance".It was drilled into me as a child to say please and thank-you,and to be polite.To be rude is not big or cleaver,it reflects more on  the perpetrator and their family.It would be interesting to know how English speaking tourists think of our behaviour.

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« Reply #4 on: Mar 13, 2005, 13:05 »
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If you hold the door open now for anyone their response will most likely be "Yeah I can open the door myself",


I've never had that response and I hold doors open for folks - most seem quite amazed that that sort of thing still happens - especially the older folks.  Spread a little happines - that's I say - it might just rub off on someone else. :lol:

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« Reply #5 on: Mar 13, 2005, 13:08 »
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I've never had that response and I hold doors open for folks


I do as well, I've only had that response once, but it makes you wonder why you were making the effort. The response from older people is generally a lot nicer.

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re: Politeness
« Reply #6 on: Mar 13, 2005, 17:28 »
I have had someone say to me 'I can open doors for myself',

to which I replied,'Sorry, I mistook you for a lady'

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« Reply #7 on: Mar 13, 2005, 17:59 »
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I have had someone say to me 'I can open doors for myself',

to which I replied,'Sorry, I mistook you for a lady'


Excellent!  :lol:  :lol:

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« Reply #8 on: Mar 14, 2005, 11:55 »
It seems there is no such thing as 'politeness' anymore, especially in the younger generation. To be perfectly honest I now only hold doors open for people who seem like they really need it because I dont need and dont deserve some of the sarcastic comments that I receive sometimes.

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« Reply #9 on: Mar 14, 2005, 12:30 »
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It seems there is no such thing as 'politeness' anymore, especially in the younger generation. To be perfectly honest I now only hold doors open for people who seem like they really need it because I dont need and dont deserve some of the sarcastic comments that I receive sometimes.


Great example today in Middlesbrough - a woman was struggling to get through a shop door with a pram and bags of shopping, the couple walking in front of her let the door slam shut on the pram.

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« Reply #10 on: Mar 14, 2005, 15:05 »
Why does that seem a lot more familiar these days. I usually find it as an instinct to hold the door for people like that.

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re: Politeness
« Reply #11 on: Mar 14, 2005, 17:01 »
Ask your self these questions in relationn to falling standards of courtesy.

Were you taught good manners at school?

Did your parents teach you good manners,

I'll bet the answer is yes.

Now ask,

Are the schools giving lessons in good manners nowadays?

Are today's parents teaching their children the rudiments of acceptable social manners

I'll bet the answer is No.

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